As a parent, I’m constantly in search of answers on how to improve my kids’ behavior. I’ve got this book called The Happy Child Guide, I read it and I love it! I’ll share with you why and let you peep into the content of the book.
An ebook written by Dr. Blaise Ryan and Ashley Ryan who are parents of a five-year old boy themselves, it talked about:
Most parents can read their children’s mind when it comes to anxiety. If your child is constantly thinking about “What if the teacher does not like me?”, “What if there is a bully at school”?, “What if my fish suddenly dies?”, “What if I get stomachache after eating this?”, chances are your child is suffering from anxiety which can lead to behavioral problem. Read more »
Every parents and caregivers goes through parenting – like it or not! Most will find it tough as parenting does not come with a user manual. The challenge surface when children misbehaves or get out of control. What should we do?
Below are 6 effective ways to stop misbehavior or preventing it from happening altogether.
1. Start young. Would you think it is easier to stop a 1 year old baby or a 5 year old kid from throwing things?Read more »
I spend lots of time communicating with Jasmine. Teaching her the real world and how fortunate we are. Living in today’s world has pros and cons but when she gets to know more about the real world, she definitely would appreciate life better. Read more »
Yes. You should never have a favorite child. Some parents say that they will be lying if they tell you they do not prefer one kid over the other. They just can’t help it. But before you continue this habit, consider the long term effects on children.
Effects of Favoritism
If this is not well-handled, it may instill jealousy and sibling rivalry. Some parents publicly declare their favoritism which is completely unhealthy for either child. The preferred child may become arrogant and snobbish and take advantage of the situation while the least preferred child may feel inferior and low-self esteem. This may even affect the school grades.
Parenting is tough if you agree with me. Especially when it comes to this issue. So if you fall into this category, here are the do’s and don’t:
Do’s in Avoiding Favoritism in Kids
1. Spend time to engage with the child that you seem to ‘love lesser’. Try to find some activities that you both enjoy and realize his or her strengths too.
2. Do practice equalities between the kids. It will be awfully obvious if you bring one child out and leave the other at home or buy treats for only one child unless you are ready to justify a reason that they will accept.
3. Find out the reason why you prefer one child over the other and try to find some ways to love all the same way.
Don’ts in Avoiding Favoritism in Kids
1. Never reveal directly or indirectly your favorite kid to anyone except for probably your spouse.
2. Never give an answer to any of your child whom you love more. Some kids may trick you to reveal but you should be tight-lipped about it.
3. Never influence your spouse that one child is better than the other.
4. Do not prejudge or draw conclusion based on your experience because kids can change too.
There is no perfect parenting so if you can’t help but have a favorite child, do keep the secret to yourself!