What causes bad child behavior? James Lehman says it happens because children don’t yet know how to solve problems effectively. To put it another way, they’re trying to handle many of the situations that life throws at them by acting out. They do this, frankly, because it’s working for them. But here’s the truth: If you don’t find out what problem your child is trying to solve with his behavior and offer him a new solution, the acting out will most likely continue—or even get worse over time.

Does this sound familiar?

-You tell your teenage son he can’t go out during the week, and he kicks a hole in the wall before storming out of the house anyway.

-You ask your pre-teen daughter to change her inappropriate outfit. She throws a screaming fit and calls you a b—-, all before 8 a.m.

-Your 10-year-old wants to watch TV, but he needs to finish his homework. When you put your foot down, he rages and has an hour-long meltdown that leaves you feeling frustrated, exhausted and helpless.

The negative behaviors that have become habits are like a well-worn groove; it’s easier for your child to fall into one of them as they have a hundred times before.

Related: How to change your child’s behavior, starting today.

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Keep in mind there are many different kinds of problems kids encounter and each looks a little different in terms of behavior. These are the three main types of problem-solving challenges you might see:

1. Emotional problems: Everyone has moments of feeling angry, sad, frustrated, helpless or excited. When you’re a child who hasn’t figured out how to deal with his emotions, just having these feelings can bring on irritating or abusive acting-out behavior.What this looks like: Instead of dealing appropriately or even reasonably well with being told “no,” your child has tantrums, curses at you, yells, or punches holes in the walls.
2. Social/relational problems: Some kids have an inability to get along well with others, particularly people their own age. They don’t know how to introduce themselves to someone, how to say “no,” or how to handle it if a peer does something they don’t like. Bullies often lack social problem-solving skills and treat others poorly to compensate.What this looks like: Your 13-year-old daughter wants to be accepted at school and to get her way at home, so she uses bullying—of peers and siblings—to feel more powerful. She’s solving her problems at the expense of everyone else’s sense of security.
3. Functional problems: This is when your child has problems meeting responsibilities around the home, at school, or in the community. He might continually lose schoolwork, refuse to do chores, talk out of turn in class or talk back to teachers, and lie about having his homework done.What this looks like: Your son lies and tells you he did his homework in school. The next day, you tell him you want to check his work but he didn’t even bring it home. He says he forgot—another lie. Before you know it, the zeros are piling up and he just keeps lying about his schoolwork night after night while his grades fall lower and lower

Teaching your child how to solve problems

The best way to start teaching your child better problem solving skills is to have a conversation about a particular incident. Do this after things have calmed down and before you talk about consequences. Your goal here is to identify the problem, teach your child how to solve it, and then hold him accountable—not to punish him and make him miserable.

Related: Is your child disrespectful?

Find a calm time to sit down with your child and talk. If your child refuses to participate without being abusive or refuses to participate at all, put one privilege on hold until you get through a calm, cooperative conversation. Here are some tips to get you started:

1. Eliminate “why” from your vocabulary. “Why” invites excuses and blame. Ask deeper questions to identify the problem such as “What were you thinking when…?” or “What were you trying to accomplish by…?” This works well for both elementary school kids and teens. Some kids, especially those in preschool and early elementary school, might have a hard time answering these questions. Younger kids will develop the ability to talk about their thoughts more as they grow older. Be patient, take a break and let your child think about things a bit more rather than putting the pressure on them to answer right away.
2. Focus on one issue at a time. Talk about one problem and one problem only during this conversation. Don’t bring up something that happened two weeks ago or something else your child did today that upset you. If your child brings up another incident, let him know you will talk about that later. Tackling too many problems at once usually only results in frustration on your part, because it’s overwhelming to address them all at the same time.
3. Identify replacement behaviors. Talk about what your child will do differently the next time this problem comes up. Allow your child to try to come up with an idea on her own; make some suggestions if she’s struggling. Perhaps you decide that when you tell your preteen daughter she can’t do something, she can go to her room and write in a journal instead of screaming and calling you names. Or maybe you decide that she might ask herself it it’s worth it to scream at you and call you names, or tell herself, “It isn’t the end of the world if I can’t wear this skirt to school.”
4. No wishful thinking allowed. When you ask your child what he will do differently next time, many kids will give you an answer that is based on wishful thinking, such as, “I just won’t do it again” or “I’ll do better.” Wishful thinking is a type of faulty thinking that indicates that your child truly believes he can just do something without really putting thought or effort into it. Get your child to be more specific. Ask him, “How will you stop cursing at me? What will I see you doing instead?”
5. Be a role model. Remember that kids study us for a living. If you yell and curse but you don’t want your child to do the same thing, this is a problem. It’s important for you to act the way you want your children to act. Observation is a key learning method for kids, especially younger ones, so be aware of this. You are the most important role model in your child’s life, even if he acts like you aren’t, so make sure to play the role well.

What changes will I see as my child develops good problem-solving skills?

Many parents have unrealistic expectations about the problem solving-process. They call us on the Parental Support Line after their very first try, disappointed that it didn’t work and that their child turned right around and did it again. This is extremely frustrating, but it’s really no surprise. When kids are caught in the heat of the moment, it’s hard for them to remember that conversation you had a few days ago—or even earlier that day. The replacement behavior you talked about is right there on the surface—it hasn’t sunk in yet, so to speak. The negative behaviors that have become habits are like a well-worn groove, and it’s easier for your child to fall into one of them like they have a hundred times before. After all, these old, comfortable behaviors have been learned and reinforced over time, while the new behavior hasn’t. Be prepared for the fact that you will need to be your child’s coach. Give him a brief reminder about what he’s supposed to do instead, and then walk away. You also might need to experiment with several different replacement behaviors over time to find one that fits. For example, some kids cool down best with a bike ride or some exercise, and some like to listen to music in their room. Listen to your instincts—you know your child best, and will find the right solution together.

Related: Is your child using acting out behavior to solve his problems?

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I know this process isn’t always easy. There will be times when you take some steps backwards, or maybe you’ll get off to a really slow start and won’t feel like you’re getting anywhere. Rest assured that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. I’ve talked with many parents on the Parental Support Line who felt hopeless and frustrated but were able to stick with it. Over time, I saw them really make some phenomenal changes in their homes. It’s important to focus on the positive and look for even the smallest improvements. Keep talking about what can be done differently and stay positive. It’s important to give your child some verbal recognition for both noticeable changes and effort. Incentive systems and reward charts are also helpful ways to reinforce replacement behaviors. Positive verbal recognition and earning incentives each help to keep you on track to create some long-term behavior changes. Continue to do your best and take one small step at a time.

The reward? As you go through this process of having problem-solving discussions and coaching your child, you will see that he gradually uses those replacement behaviors more and more with less coaching from you. And as kids get better at solving various problems on their own, most will start to feel better about themselves. As James Lehman says, “you can’t feel your way to better behavior, you have to behave your way to better feelings.” Having strong problem-solving skills improves self-esteem. Kids feel good about themselves when they conquer something that’s hard and let’s face it: when kids feel good, parents feel good, too. It’s a win-win.

Sara A. Bean, M.Ed. holds a Masters Degree in Education with a concentration in School Counseling from Florida Atlantic University. She is a Certified School Counselor and a proud aunt to a 5 year-old girl. She has been with Legacy Publishing since 2009 working on the Parental Support Line. Sara has over 5 years of experience working with youth and families in private homes, residential group homes, and schools.

It’s a truth we don’t often admit, even to ourselves: we don’t always like our kids. I can hear the guilt in parents’ voices when they say, “Sometimes I really don’t like my child. He’s a pain, he argues with me all the time and he’s just not fun to be around.” Or maybe your child just isn’t the person you thought he would be: perhaps he’s not academic or outgoing enough, or maybe he likes to complain and is very negative. It’s important to accept the fact that you won’t always like your kids—and they won’t always like you. This is especially hard for parents of difficult, acting out kids to grapple with. But the fact is, you’re on your way to less guilt and a better relationship with your child when you can acknowledge your feelings.

You can’t change a tiger into a leopard; these are your child’s stripes.

I’m very empathetic to parents in this situation because I recognize how painful it is. It’s important not to feel guilty about it because we all have expectations of what our children will be like, and it can be very painful when they’re not what we expected. You feel let down, and then you feel guilty for feeling that way. But remember, as James Lehman says, you have to learn to “Parent the child you have, not the child you wish you had.” Facing the truth is always an important first step.

Related: Are you the parent of a difficult, acting out child?

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The first thing to do is ask yourself, “What am I feeling and why?” Take a minute to pause, step back and think about it for a moment. Maybe you don’t like her because she’s so different from you. Maybe you don’t always like your child because she acts out, is defiant and oppositional and causes havoc in your home. Maybe her behavior is stressing you out and wearing you down and causing friction between you and your spouse. All understandable reasons to feel dislike towards your child. Why would you like someone who treats you poorly, is contrary or behaves in obnoxious ways?

But if you look closely, disliking your child is more about you than about her because these are your feelings—your reactions—to her. And in turn, those reactions may even contribute to your child’s unlikeable behaviors. That’s the good news, since the only person you can change is yourself anyway. Here are a few things that you can do to build the relationship and like your child at least most of the time.

Face your feelings: Acknowledge and accept your feelings. Don’t push them away because you think it’s bad or wrong to dislike your child. You don’t have to like your truth; you just have to own it.

Find the cause: Recognize what’s causing you to dislike your child. If it’s because he’s different from you or because he’s not how you want him to be, then manage your own expectations. Accept your child for who he is and pay attention to his strengths, rather than focusing on what you think are his weaknesses. Remember, it’s very easy to forget that it’s the behavior you don’t like, not the whole person.

Get to know your child better: Get to know who your child is and what he needs; find out what really makes him tick, rather than who you want him to be. Your child can read it if you are disappointed in him; his acting out and negative feelings towards you may even increase because of it.

Are there contributing factors? If you’re feeling dislike because of your child’s defiant behavior, is there any way you or others in your family are contributing to his behavior. Is he acting out other unresolved issues?

Ask yourself the following questions, and answer them honestly:

• Could your child be behaving poorly as a way to keep you and your spouse engaged with each other by focusing on a “problem child”?
• Is his behavior poor because no one is holding him accountable?
• Is he overly or underly focused upon in the family?
• Does he have too much power because you allow yourself to be intimidated by him? Do you always give in or never give in?
• Is your relationship with him defined around problems instead of just enjoying each other?
• Are your frustrations and unresolved issues with your own parents intensifying your reactions and actions with your child?
• Is your child somehow getting caught between your difficulties with your mate?

The importance of playfulness: Bring more playfulness and less seriousness to your interactions. Recognize that your child may be a problem, but he is not the problem: your interactions have been the problem. You’re a part of that, too, so stay focused on changing your role in the dance. Make special dates and times together. Listen to him—really listen. Accept him for who he is. Be yourself with him. Let him know your preferences, beliefs and values. Love him and stop worrying about him so much. And remember, loving him also means holding him accountable.

Related: Hold your child accountable by following through on consequences.

Anger creates reactivity: Remember that your anger and resentment about feeling disappointed in your child creates more judgments and reactivity. Stop reacting and start responding more thoughtfully and positively. Power struggles often happen when you try to change someone else into who you think they should be. Just let go of the rope in that tug-of-war you’re in with your child. Don’t always try to get the last word or prove you’re right. Admit to your mistakes and struggles.

Maximize the positives and minimize the negatives: You can start focusing on what’s right––not wrong––with your child today and begin building on what is good. Having a positive mindset leads to more positives. Build your relationship by letting your child know what you appreciate about him daily. Ask him to help you in things he’s strong in, so you build on his strengths. Spend time together without discussing the problem.

Commit to not criticizing him or trying to change him. One of the things I do is I actually get up in the morning and I really say, “Okay, not one criticism can come out of my mouth today.” I actually have to make that a very conscious thought and activity. It’s so automatic for some of us. And so half the time I really don’t even know when I’m saying something negative. So make a conscious effort.

I think about the concept of appreciation or gratefulness as well, because sometimes I just take so much for granted. After all, in the heat of the moment, it’s easy to only see the negatives. But try to find the positives; notice when your child does something well. The more you look through positive lenses, the more you’ll appreciate what’s in front of you. Point out your child’s strengths and describe what you see. For example, you can say, “You looked like you were about to scream at your brother, but I noticed how you pulled yourself together and walked away. How did you do that? That was impressive.” So point out a very specific behavior and move it to positive instead of somehow making it into a negative.

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Focus on your reactions: Get more focused on yourself than on your child in order to build and improve your relationship with him. Decide how you want to behave with him, no matter how he behaves with you.

When There’s a Personality Clash with Your Child

What if your personalities simply clash? Maybe your child is not a friend you would have chosen. Perhaps you’re too different or too similar. But look at it this way: You might not like your boss, but you still have to find a way to get along with her. Problems start when you carry around a lot of disappointment about somebody and try to change them in some way or another. That’s when that negative cycle—that push–pull—begins.

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If you decide you want to change how you’ve been reacting, stating it can sometimes be good. You can take responsibility for how you’ve been feeling and dealing with your child up until now and even apologize for some of the ways that you’ve responded to things. Show that you really see and understand it and that you’re working on doing a better job. Kids really appreciate that. I think it’s worthwhile to talk to your teen or child and say something like, “It’s really important to me for us to get along. And I recognize that I haven’t been so easy on you. I recognize that I can be too hard on you sometimes (or whatever the case may be) and I just want you to know that I apologize for my part in it. I’m really working on it.” Leave it at that, and don’t add, “And I hope you do too.”

Just own your part in it. I know it’s very hard for parents to apologize for their part when they really see it as their kids being bratty and obnoxious. And maybe your child is being obnoxious, but don’t wait for him to change. Instead, take responsibility to make those interactions different.

You can’t change a tiger into a leopard; these are your child’s stripes. Now get to know him, appreciate him and enjoy his good qualities. Deal with your own issues and anxiety around it. If you absolutely can’t get over it, seek out therapy. Get to the bottom of what’s really bothering you and try to understand and manage your emotions. If you can calm down and come to terms with who your child is–and accept him and not try to change or fix him–then you’ll be able to relax. Here’s the paradox: if your child can feel deeply accepted for who he is, warts and all, he’ll be able to look at himself and change what he isn’t satisfied with. That’s when your child can feel good inside of himself–and blossom into the person he’s meant to be.

For more than 25 years, Debbie has offered compassionate and effective therapy and coaching, helping individuals, couples and parents to heal themselves and their relationships. Debbie is the creator of the Calm Parent AM & PM program and is also the author of numerous books for young people on interpersonal relations.

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Have you noticed kids poor behavior recently?

Call it workaholic but to me parenting is round-the-clock job and I can’t help but to notice how others parent their kids. While I was about to pickup Jasmine from her concert rehearsal, I saw her again. She came with her elder son to pickup her younger son who is in the same concert rehearsal as Jasmine. She got engaged with another parent and could not stop chatting while we waited for the rehearsal to end. Oh nevermind about that. Until…

Her elder son started to distract his brother rehearsing. They giggled and pushed each other thinking it was fun! It was to the extend that other parents started to look on and the teacher stopped the music.
She still didn’t noticed because she was carried away while chatting, higher beyond the clouds, laughing intermittenly. Her elder son continue to distract.

The mother hearing the teacher calling her elder son’s name immediately turned back. Pretended nothing happened to save herself from embarrassment and continued to chat! Oh poor parenting!

I could not also deny that if we improve our parenting styles, our kids will be more well behaved. Parents must act as disciplinarian. Parents must guide kids by drawing lines between good and bad behavior. What kind of behavior is allowed and what is not. You may also wish to refer to my best selling parenting eBook The Happy Child Guide to learn more tips on parenting.

Elden will turn three in November and his behavior is getting better each day. Believe me or not, terrible two is over! Whew! Either that or the Reward Chart is working pretty well for him. For this month, I have a superhero theme (oh boys!) Reward Chart. Close to end of September and he is getting most of his reward stickers everyday. My criteria of reward stickers are like ‘No Whining, Listens, Independent and Brushing Teeth.

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I would expect him to be independent in the sense that he takes the things that he wants on his own. I couldn’t attend to him if I’m like halfway baking in the kitchen and he calls out ‘Mummy, can you take my red toy car for me?’ Sorry, Elden. Try to find it own your own – that would be my firm answer. In reward, he will get his ‘Independent Boy’ sticker at the end of the day.

What’s about brushing teeth? This reminds me (probably a year ago) when we wasn’t tune to brushing his teeth twice a day. Every teeth brushing session is like a toothache (for me!).  However, over time and consistency, Elden is now able to proceed to brush his teeth without much struggle. Trust me, the reward chart works!

As for ‘No Whining’ reward stickers, it works when in reminding him when he is just about to whine. We have to understand that as parents, kids of this age are ‘prone’ to be whinny. We just have to see this as passing phase. What really helps is that we give reward stickers if they are not whinny for the day. It is also truly flattering for them too!

Finally, my true weapon for achieving good behavior is the ‘Listen’ stickers. This is criteria is truly useful because for children of their age, they are always learning to explore. While learning, they may not know the reality of the real world. For instance, if kids picks up a sweet wrapper sees if they are lucky enough to find a sweet overleaf, you may instantly react by ‘Throw it away, it dirty!’ You may unconsciously snatch from him and dump it right away.  Chances are, he will start to cry because he hasn’t got a chance to get rid of it himself or probably taken a back because you raised your voice. What about a different reaction like ‘Someone left the wrapper here after taking the sweet. Do not pick it because it is dirty. Good boy for listening and mummy will give you reward stickers tonight. ‘

Just remember that kids behavior are often the reaction of our actions and examples. Happy Parents will raise Happy Child!

Infertility is a global public health  concern and affects approximately 10% – 15% of couples worldwide. This condition may stem from numerous anomalies in the body, ranging from infections and cysts in the ovaries and reproductive tract, to the disproportionate secretion of hormones by the glands. Infertility treatments are many, and are of various kinds. The best way to tackle it is to identify the exact cause of this condition and then alleviate it.

Available infertility treatments include:

. Treating APA’s. APA’s cause blood clots and prevent implantation. A low dose aspirin therapy works wonders when treating APA’s in the blood. For graver cases, anticoagulants are used to thin out the blood and improve blood circulation in the terus.

. Removing natural killer cells. Natural killer cells present in excess begin to attack the embryo. An intravenous treatment of gamma globulin, intralipid infusions and steroids are often used in this case.

. Treating Antinuclear Antibodies (AA’s).  Abundance of antinuclear antibodies in the body is treated with steroids, intake of herbs that increase circulation, intake of antioxidants, zinc supplements, alkaline generating food and reducing the levels of stress. Balancing the responses of the immune system is the key to treating AA’s.

. Treating antisperm antibodies. To suppress the reactions in the body caused by antisperm antibodies interacting with the sperm, low doses of steroids are often made use of.

. Treating age related infertility. Since age is a possible threat to female fertility, infertility treatments involving care of the kidneys and the spleen will help a woman keep the age related problems of pregnancy at bay.

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. Treating infections that hinder pregnancy. Antibiotic treatments to exterminate the harmful bacteria from the body are recommended by most doctors who conduct IVF’s. Nutritious food and immune enhancing supplements are used to
prevent harmful bacteria from growing in the body. When detected in one partner, antibiotic treatments for harmful bacteria must be carried out in both partners since they are likely to have infected each other during intercourse.

. Treating the high prolactin levels in the body. Normally, to treat the elevated levels of prolactin in the body, natural remedies are suggested. These natural remedies include the intake of vitamin B, zinc and magnesium supplements,
exercising, staying away from alcohol, and lowering the levels of stress. The intake of rebalancing hormones like hasteberry, etc. is also helpful. Qi moving herbs are also quite helpful in these cases.

. Treating leutal phase defects. In case of dealing with leutal phase defects, fertility drugs like Clomid, etc. are prescribed for boosting the levels of progesterone, which enable pregnancy. However, medicines such as these are bound to have side effects, and to avoid these said side effects, it is always beneficial to opt for natural methods of treatment. Traditional Chinese Medicine offers good help in these cases.

. Treating tubal blockages. Laparoscopy is performed to remove small areas of blockage, however if that fails, In Vitro Fertilization is an option.

. Treating sperm problems. Fertility drugs are available that enhance sperm production, and improve motility. Since sperm motility is one of the major factors affecting pregnancy, treatments in males are incomplete without looking into this.

Infertility treatments are possible with the whole new range of medicines that is available to the public these days, but it
must also be kept in mind that these treatments can be painful, often come without harmful side effects and the results are far from guaranteed. On the other hand, following the holistic approach with a healthy diet, regular exercise, abstinence from alcohol, nicotine and other drugs, stress management, acupuncture etc. can almost guarantee positive and fast results.

This article is based on the book, “Pregnancy Miracle” by Lisa Olson. Lisa is an author, researcher, nutritionist and health consultant who dedicated her life to creating the ultimate pregnancy solution guaranteed to permanently reverse the root of infertility, help you get pregnant quickly and naturally and dramatically improve the overall quality of your life,  without
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Infertility may be broadly defined as the inability to get pregnant after trying for at least one year without using any birth control. In Western countries, infertility affects an estimated 15% of the population. While a part of them are trying to conceive using alternative methods like IVF, others prefer to optimize the chances of getting pregnant naturally.

Trying to get pregnant naturally may be very important, since many couples and individuals who are diagnosed with infertility may be able to get pregnant without treatment (and hence should be defined as “subfertile” rather than “infertile”).

Determining the Signs of Ovulation.

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To check for the right timings of ovulation, a woman can do one, or many, of the following things: . Keep a calendar. Keeping a calendar to chart the days is an easy and effective method to determine the right time to have sexual intercourse. . Keep a check on vaginal fluids. Mucus discharge from the vagina usually becomes heavier, thinner, clearer and stretchy during ovulation when compared to the usual times. . Feel the inside of the vagina. During ovulation, the cervix is softer and slightly more open than usual. . Keep tabs on any sharp pain in the abdomen. Sharp pains in the abdomen, or some slight spotting, may be indicative of ovulation. . Other physical conditions. Headaches, bloating, breast tenderness and pain may be signs of ovulation.

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Having checked for ovulation, there are some other things that an individual can do to increase the chances of getting pregnant naturally. These include lying still for a while after having sexual intercourse, avoiding the bathroom for about thirty minutes after having sexual intercourse, and most importantly, figuring out how many times one should have sexual intercourse. Men often neglect their own part to play in this whole scenario. The sperms need to be of the correct constitution, correct shape and correct motility too, or else, however fertile the women may be, impregnation does not occur naturally. A way of ensuring that the sperms are undamaged is by wearing boxers instead of briefs. Boxers help in keeping the testicles from overheating and damaging sperms. For both women and men, the anatomical and hormonal factors are not the only ones to be monitored and corrected. In most cases, failure to conceive may result from an improper diet, undue stress, the use of drugs like alcohol and nicotine, and even environmental factors such as proximity to harmful doses of pesticides. Abstinence from such factors goes a long way in ensuring a pregnancy.

One should always keep in mind that the holistic approach to solving a problem is the optimal way to tackle infertility. Getting regular health checkups, taking supplements to combat existing problem, exercising and stress reduction techniques are only part of the holistic solution to infertility which considers the problem as part of a whole unlike the conventional approach which tackles a specific body organ in its attempt to heal. The holistic approach is not only a surefire way to increase your chances of conception it also guarantees a safe and healthy pregnancy.

This article is based on the book, “Pregnancy Miracle” by Lisa Olson. Lisa is an author, researcher, nutritionist and health consultant who dedicated her life to creating the ultimate pregnancy solution guaranteed to permanently reverse the root of infertility, help you get pregnant quickly and naturally and dramatically improve the overall quality of your life,  without the use prescription medication and without any surgical procedures. Learn more by visiting her website: PREGNANCY MIRACLE

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1. Understand Your Monthly Cycle.

Cycle here means menstruation, ovulation and pre-menses days. One of the best ways to increase your chances of becoming pregnant is to understand how your monthly cycle works. Every woman is different and in some cases, every cycle is different. Before you conceive, take a few months to chart your cycle from beginning to end. Keep track of the first day of your period and when you ovulate.

This information will help you determine when you are most fertile and when you should be scheduling intercourse. It may not be very romantic to schedule it in, but if you do want to conceive, you have to be able to take advantage of that window of opportunity when it arrives.

2. Predict Your Monthly Ovulation.

In order to find that window of opportunity, you have to know when you ovulate. There is a period of five days within each cycle that you are at your most fertile. The three days preceeding ovulation and the day following ovulation. Once you know when this occurs, you can greatly increase the likelihood of fertilization.

Remember that once an egg is released from an ovary, it only has a period of 24 hours when it remains viable. It is vital to make sure that you are having intercourse as close to the date that you ovulate as possible. While you can become pregnant at any time during those five days, it is best to try to time your ovulation and intercourse as closely as possible.

3. Get Healthy Ahead of Time.

In order to be at your most fertile, you need to take care of yourself. Start taking prenatal vitamins ahead of time and have yourself looked over by a doctor. If you have noticed any irregularities with your monthly cycles, talk to them about it now. If you have questions about ovulation or learning more about your body, it is important to have these questions answered ahead of time.

Get plenty of rest and practice a healthy lifestyle. Try to remove stress from your life and take good care of your body. You’ll be asking it to undergo a great task over the next nine months and you owe it to yourself and your future child to be as healthy as possible.

Successful conception doesn’t have to be difficult. Although it can take a healthy couple a year to conceive naturally, by paying attention to this advice, you can increase your chances of becoming pregnant in less time. Remember, if you don’t conceive right away, don’t get disheartened. Just keep trying and barring any fertility issues you should be able to conceive a happy and healthy baby.

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The sperm that are responsible for having a girl carry the X chromosome. These sperm are slower than their Y counterparts and require a few different techniques if you want to ensure that they successfully reach the egg to result in a girl.

Eating the Right Foods

You will need develop an acidic environment in your body for the x sperm to reach the egg successfully. This is considered to be ideal. It is highly recommended for you to take foods like fish (as long as it is farm raised and contains no mercury), broccoli, apples and dairy products. Increase food intake that are high in calcium and magnesium for the ultimate balance.

Picking the Right Time

Time your intercourse so that by the X sperm reach the egg when you ovulate, the Y sperm have already died off. This means that it is ideal to have intercourse two to three days before you ovulate. Sperm can remain viable within the body for up to five days and X sperm are the longest lived. By the time the egg drops from your ovary, the only ones left will most likely be the sperm that carry the X chromosome.

Choosing the Perfect Position

In order to give the X sperm the edge they need to outlast the faster Y sperm, sexual positions that offer shallow penetration are ideal. Positions such as missionary are perfect for this, but any position where the man does not orgasm deep within the vagina will work. Once again, you are stacking the deck so that the longer lived X sperm can outlast the Y sperm before they reach their destination.

Other Factors to Consider

Whether or not a woman orgasms before a man does have some determination in the gender of the child that they will conceive. This is due to the fact that once you orgasm, the PH inside the vagina changes due to secretions. Before an orgasm, the environment within the vagina and around the cervix is acidic, which is perfect for sperm carrying the X chromosome. Once you do orgasm, the secretions change the PH to more alkaline in nature, allowing the Y sperm the chance to get through. It is recommended that a woman not orgasm first when trying for a girl.

What to Remember

Although these techniques can increase the chances of conceiving a girl, as mentioned earlier, there is no foolproof method and there are no guarantees. However, you can have a lot of fun trying and no matter what gender you end up with, the result is the same – a happy and healthy baby and a brand new addition to your family.

For a complete guide on methods to conceive a girl, refer to Prince or Princess Guide.

Before we get started, it is important to understand the difference between the sperms that carry the Y chromosome, which are responsible for conceiving a boy and the sperms that carry the X chromosome, which are responsible for conceiving a girl. The Y sperm move very quickly, are quite small and don’t live as long as the X sperm do.
They are great swimmers, but they must reach the egg quickly or they will die sooner than the X sperm.

Timing Your Intercourse

Keeping these differences in mind, when you want to have a boy, do time your intercourse as close as possible to ovulation. The Y sperm only have limited time to make it to the egg to fertilize it and you need to give them enough of a chance to get there before the X sperm do. If you can time intercourse to the exact day that you ovulate, you are greatly increasing your chances of having a boy.

While this doesn’t always work and sometimes an X sperm will get there first, by scheduling intercourse in this way, you are giving the Y sperm the chance they need to make it to the egg first.

Choose the Right Position

Sexual positions that allow for deep penetration can also increase the likelihood of having a boy. By allowing the man to orgasm as closely as possible to the cervix, the Y sperm will have less distance to go in their journey to the egg. Since they need a headstart, you are again giving them that extra edge to make it to the egg first.

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The most common positions for deep penetration include woman dominant, so called doggy style, or penetration from behind as well as reverse cowgirl. In addition to the right position, it is beneficial if the woman orgasms before the man if you are trying to have a boy. This changes the PH of the fluids near the cervix, making them hospitable to the Y sperm.

The Right Diet

The foods you eat can also impact the gender of your child. If you want to have a boy, a diet rich in foods containing sodium and potassium is essential. The perfect food for this is a banana. Sweet corn, red meat and peaches are also recommended. While you don’t want to overdo the sodium, small amounts can be helpful when you are trying to conceive a boy.

Remember, these methods are not foolproof, but no matter what gender your child ends up being, the important thing is that they are healthy and happy.

For a complete guide in conceiving a baby gender of your own choice, view Prince or Princess guide with 94% success rate. Conceiving naturally and safely.