Kids are kids because they are not grown up. It takes time for their physical and mental to mature. While they are growing, children will display the most unacceptable behavior such as biting, hitting or screaming. How do you think you can get help with such behavior?
Would you know what to do as a parent or caregiver to manage such aggressive behavior? Given good parenting skills with proper advice, it can help to reduce bad behavior. On the other hand, if the aggressiveness is left not managed, children may believe that it is ok to continue to be aggressive. This explains why some children are well behaved at the age of 2 while others still unacceptably aggressive at the age of 8!
Here are some tips on how to manage aggressiveness in children:
Reduce Exposure to Violence
Take a while to ponder how did children pick up their aggressive behavior from? Chances are, they picked it up from a family member at home, the TV or from school. Whichever it could be, you must minimize the exposure of your children to this violence.Children are often good at imitating violence they learn by hitting, biting or screaming. A must read guide is the Democratic Parenting which explains how children’s diet, TV, sleep and exercise can influence your child’s behavior.
Set Limits and Take Immediate Action
Now, what happens if you see your child display any of the aggressive behavior? Set rules immediately and have in mind what you need to do if the rules are broken. Which will work better – take a way privileges , time-out or grounding? How would you ground? Always remember to match disciplinary action according to bad behavior. What does this means? You wouldn’t want to merely make your 5 year old stand at time-out corner for a minute for biting his sister. You need to go further than that to make him understand that aggressive behavior are not permitted at home.
Other than that, take action immediately without delay even if you are paying your bills.
Instill Self Control
What happens if you see your child is about to hit? Teach him an alternative to his actions by saying it out instead. Of cos it has to be done with self-control. Teach him how to express himself without being aggressive or violent.
The truth about spanking is that it is contagious. Children will learn to hit others which they think by exerting authority, it will solve the problem.It takes some patience to parent. Spanking is simply the easy way out in venting your frustration. Spanking instills fear since your child will be focusing on your rod and not your teaching. Explain why you need to spank to educate your child’s that a certain behavior is unacceptable. Even so, spanking should not be made as a discipline method. Read more from Total Transformation Program which empowers parents to deal with the most difficult children without resorting to spanking.