Is your child lying attitude worrying you? Has that behavioral problem swell to an extend that you find it hard to trust her? Would you often need to take precaution or make extra efforts to find out if your child is lying?
If you answer yes to all three questions above, do take further steps in managing your child’s lying problem. Find out why do they lie in the first place.
Why Do Children Lie?
Children tell lies for a reason. It’s not fun for children to tell lies because they need some skills to do it without you noticing! They often feel guilty or may even regret doing it. Here are some reasons why children lie.
1. Escape from Confrontation. More often than not, they tell lie to prevent from further questioning or to escape from confrontation. If daddy raise his voice and yell at Ben ‘Why did the vase break?’ Ben would answer ‘I don’t know. I didn’t break it.’ It simply appears to us that Ben doesn’t want to own up because he was afraid.
2. Escape from Being Penalized. Well, in a separate occasion, Ben accidentally tore a library book and didn’t know what to do. He tried using the sellotape to mend it but it wasn’t tastefully done. When angry dad find’s out, he became afraid and said ‘he knew nothing about it’.
3. Being Nonchalant. Some children lie because that want to avoid a task like ‘Have you wash you hands’ and they answer ‘yes’ without much thought because their eyes are glued on Nickelodeon.
4. To Achieve Satisfaction. Jane was hopeful in winning the art competition but to her disappointment her friend turned out to be the winner. Jane kept imagining that her masterpiece was still the best and told her parents that she got the first prize. When she was asked ‘Where is the prize, darling?’, she went silent.
5. Not Able To Follow Rules. Jack knows that he has to be home by 5pm everyday. On the way back one day, he saw few boys playing basketball and he voluntarily joined them. He had forgotten about time and when his mom asked when he reached home, he said ‘I had stomachache in school’. In this instance, children may be lying to cover up something.
6. Unaware of Importance of Integrity. Some children tell lie because they thought it was OK. It does not seem to be bad behavior because they didn’t snatch, push, scream, back talk or being defiant. It was simply saying something other than the truth which didn’t seem bad – until they learn about it.
7. Unintentional Lying. Sometimes lying can be spontaneous and unintentional because they had forgotten about the truth and too their answer slip out of their mouth too quickly.
What Should Parents Do To Lying Children?
Irregardless of why children lie, you must learn how to parent. Do not wait for your child to outgrow their lying attitude – because they never will unless you take action.
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